“If it causes you anxiety, the answer is no. If it brings peace, the answer is yes. If it brings mixed messages, you’re asking the wrong questions.” HMLD *~*
A note I shared with a loved one today.
Does it help?
“Give the gift of your heart and it will grow a glow so brilliant, the universe will bless you with all the good you’ve ever desired. Don’t be stingy!” HMLD *~*
It’s Friday. A day for many who find relief that their work week has ended and their relaxation time has begun. For others, it’s one day before church, or their 2nd job kicks in. Whatever Friday may be for you, a beginning or an ending, it is a time for giving.
On the radio this morning, 105.1 with Bob here in Raleigh NC, someone called it “Forgiveness Friday”. hmm Maybe for you this is your gift? Maybe your gift is spending time with someone who needs a hug? Or with a stranger asking them their story and learning you’ve more in common than you thought.
Whatever your gift is for the world around you today, give it freely and ask nothing in return. Sometimes, it’s enough for feeling less lonely.
Love like it’s the only day you have. Celebrate your lover for their individuality. Raising your partner isn’t loving them – that’s their parent’s job. Everyone is in their own place on their journey. Learn to celebrate where your lover is on their life’s path. Rejoice in where they’re going. Be there when they fall. Let go if the relationship becomes poisonous. HMLD *~*
There is so much heartache in the world. Too much.
“Love” has been on my mind lately. Relationship love. What does it look like. How do you define it. Why aren’t you/I in that amazing soul enriching relationship?
Disney monetized romance like never before. Publishers of Harlequin (and books penned in similar styles), cornered the market on what people believed romance ‘should be’. Television came into our world, and before us all our dreams were laid out in fantastic dramas. We look around us and see failure upon failure that doesn’t reflect what the books, tv, movies show us is real. We see what we think is perfect to find out later it was poisonous. We see what we think is a perfect, only to find out later it was a business transaction. We see the couple who’s been together for 50 years, not the work they did to stay together that makes the eye to eye communication so special.
We gathered our hurts before us, around us,
and our perspective wears ash colored glasses. ~Nix
When you desire a relationship, being open to the possibilities of the greatness within others, and yourself will go a long way toward that passionate relationship becoming a reality. There’s a lot of advice on love in the world. A soundbite of some of the best advice I’ve ever come across is this: Always be open to seeing someone as they are, not as you expect them to be based on your past experiences, nor your future expectations. Be forgiving of yourself, your own shortcomings. Find the romance on the sick days too.
Another favorite quote: “Romance is not the means to an end, it is the means.” ~ unknown
Me? I’m not in the relationship I desire because I’ve had to learn what that feels like to be romanced, loved, accepted. I’ve had to learn many other lessons. As for giving romance, love, and acceptance – not a problem. At all. I did learn though that it’s perfectly OK to focus on giving to someone who wants to do the same in return. Painful lessons. Lessons I cherish.
You? What have you learned about the realities of love? How do you apply them to your relationships?
Spend our childhood trying to fit in and our professional life trying to stand out. Why not stand in who you are? HMLD *~*
Last year, someone pointed out to me that we spend all our childhood trying to fit in. We then try to spend our entire adult life trying to stand out from the crowd. For all ages, after discovering we are an individual as a toddler, we want to be accepted, yet set apart enough to be seen as unique. As teenagers, our society in the U.S. gives us permission to say, “I AM” and then to define what that is. We tend to change the definition of “I AM” as we mature (not age). Standing in whom we are means opening up ourselves to our own approval.
To looking at our hearts and seeing ourselves for the amazing creature we are.
It means we look at our bodies and take care of them, because THIS particular body is the only one we’ll have during this lifetime – whether you go cyborg or not.
Being who we are as “I AM” means finding the internal life of your heart and mind and accepting it as YOU.
We want to stop bullying, yet perpetuate the belief in ourselves, neighborhoods, cities, countries that to be different is wrong. WHAT?! Yes. Even with all the arts celebrated, religions practices, lifestyles lived, fashion choices made, nerds and fashionistas alike – we all want acceptance of our individuality, yet punk on those that don’t understand, or punk on those with different views from ours.
How do we stop this? There’s a million answers available. Mine is simple: Stand in whom you are.
It gives you room to celebrate others rather than to…not.
What are some of the things you do to stand within yourself? Share your way of being an individual in the comments below and then share the post too.
Twinkle twinklle little star..
How I know just where you are…
Deep in my heart shining bright,
…all through the day and all through the night.
Happy Magic Love Dust *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
We are born from the stars and to the stars we return. We see their brilliance and often not our own. Today, I just wanted to let you know, I see your brilliance and it makes me HAPPY!
Our brilliance is built on love and wonder. So love, loud! Find wonder in all that is! Celebrate your spark(le) of life! It makes the world go round :).
Today’s Love Dust: Thank you.
(That’s it. In all it’s simplicity and complexities)
Happy Magic Love Dust *~<>~*~<>~*~<>~*~<>~*~<>~*
Sometimes, a ‘Thank you’ says so much more than just the two words together imply.
Sometimes it means, “You matter to me, not just what you’ve done for me.”
Sometimes it means, “You’ve touched my life or circumstances in ways I cannot express with words and all I have to offer are these two words.”
Sometimes it means, “You’ve rocked my world and in awe I am inspired.”
Thank you for being you in this world with me. Thank you for inspiring me. Thank you for believing in me. Thank you for being open to waking up every day. Thank you for loving yourself enough to smile. Thank you….
Share what your ‘Thank you’ to someone special here with us, then share this post with them. Because sharing an honest heart felt ‘Thank you’ can mean so much. :).
Are you so focused on the slow traffic in front of you that you miss the sunrise, or sunset, the rainbows, the seasons, your life?
Happy Magic Love Dust *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
Yesterday evening, as the sky turned peachy and the shadows to deep purples, I was driving home and noticed that I was stuck in the right lane of interstate traffic, coming off the the beltline to exit to the major highway, behind the slowest cars 2 miles around. WTH!? (WHAT THE HEY!?!?)
I’m not a slow driver – as in – I’m the one that pushes the limits toward 7, 8, 9 miles over whatever’s posted (‘cept in SC) & a few select locations here in NC. A smooth driver too. So when I’m “stuck” behind ‘slow drivers’….mmmmh yeah….I get itchy to get bitchy. It was in the middle of the curve going right…I was behind a slower driver, two on my right moving slower & no way to get OUT OF THE TRAP when I started laughing at myself.
Because I looked up from the gray field with headlights & noticed how glorious the sky was. Beautiful peaches. Edged in lavenders. The moon so beautiful. Stars starting to show up. It struck me – I’d let myself get emotionally involved in my driving circumstances, rather than in the beauty that changes constantly, never to be seen again. Yes, it was an instant ah-ha moment & perfect for this morning’s HMLD text.
As we go through life, we tend to get into habits that may end up turning our world gray. The kind of gray that turns to depressions, blackness, getting out-of-sorts with the world. Are you choosing to stay in the gray? Or are you lifting your eyes, your heart to capture the beauty of life around you?
Look at people. Appreciate them for being humans. Look at the landscape around you. Appreciate the nature of your environment, or the human ingenuity of the architecture. Look at your life choices. Are they bringing you joy? Or just a way to ‘make it through’?
I’m looking all around me to find beauty, even within. Join me? Share with us what inspired you to be a wiser, more observant or more powerfully healthier you :). Thanks for posting & thanks for sharing.
Example: Ex-husband and plans that go awry.
You can either let them become your focus or take back your power and focus on what feeds you.
Happy Magic Love Dust *~*~*~*~*~*~*
I have a propensity to be negative when something irritates me. Irritations for me are as the examples shown above, or when I’m delayed in getting somewhere. Someone is rude. Can’t get the square in the round hole. There are plenty of idiot small things & several big things that ‘irritate’ me. This morning, I looked at my phone that had been on vibrate since last evening & found 12 calls from my ex-husband. TWELVE! I answered on the 13th call only because I had my phone in my hand as I walked out the door hurrying to not be late in delivering my daughter to her school.
(1st – please understand, it felt GREAT to put down technology – I’m a self proclaimed tech junkie – using it anyway – 2nd – he lives 3 hours away and gives or receives a call from our daughter every morning & evening. I thought she’d talked w/him last night. My house phone was turned off too. My daughter had logged onto her phone account – Skype – logging off mine – caused him some irritation)
Turns out, he left THREE voicemails on my daughter’s phone, which had been dead & a even a text message. Thanks for worrying. REALLY. Thanks for worrying – however…REALLY? REALLYREALLY? Can we not have 12 hours of silence? I just had to be irritated with this disruption to our morning. (didn’t really – wanted to be apparently).
On top of this barrage of phone calls from the ex, my Honey had to do something else this morning other than meet me for our morning cup of brew.
THE WORLD IS ENDING!!!
No – however, it was IRRITATION in micro that could grow into ruining my day. It’s something I’ve chosen to do before. Since I’d not sent out the HMLD text, I just KNEW that the topic had to be about how we decide whether something controls us, or whether we take our power back & say, “nope – not gonna happen”. We have the power to think ourselves into almost any situation we desire (see TUT.com). I decided to refocus on balloons, the clouds, how beautiful the moon was last night. On my Darling’s blue, blue eyes. On my daughter’s smile as she snuggle hugged my arm just before she got out of the car for school. It worked and I was smiling 5 minutes later. (took 20minutes to get really irritated though :p).
While typing the HMLD text, I also wanted to put in: “being irritated, angry, hurt, feeling injured is all a part of the process of life. Denying those feelings & responses is not healthy. Acknowledge them. Even embrace them if need be. In the end though, give yourself an opportunity to find a lesson in the pain. An understanding of self from the anger. Give yourself permission to feel the full spectrum of human emotions. It’s ok. Dwelling in the dark though will turn you into Gollum though. justsayin’”
Thank you for sharing this post and your story about how you’ve turned something negative into something positive.
Happy happy happy
Sometimes, you just gotta do a
and tell the crud, “F* off!”.
Happy Magic Love Dust *~**~**~**~**~*
(“fudge off” y’all LOL)
Yesterday was an emotionally funkified-crud-filled-no-fun-frowning kind of day for me. Looking for smiles I came across some pretty funny stuff on Facebook. Found lots of inspiring content. On LinkedIn.com, I found posts that encourage growth in all sectors of business. Twitter had some great stuff too.
What finally pulled me out of my funk? Why did I end my day yesterday & wake up happily doing a ‘happy-dance’? Gave me the strength to toss off that crud? Someone very special to my heart gave me a hug.
Yesterday’s post was about hugs. Sometimes, when we speak, we’re telling ourselves what we need to hear. Love shared through thought, actions or a kind word can truly help someone find the strength to smile again. Hugs are magic like that too.
Are you sharing love today? Through a smile? A hug? A kind word?
Tell us what you’re doing to brighten someone’s day or how someone inspired you to smile & dance again.
Seasons on earth, in life & of the heart are all part of the cycle.
It’s a lot more fun than stagnation.
Happy Magic Love Dust *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
In the Southern state of North Carolina, we’ll have summer weather in the middle of the winter. Our weather patterns can go from cold 26 degrees to warm 70 degrees in a matter of days. This weekend, we got snow after days of very warm weather. Rare here in the South and usually only lasting a day, sometimes up to three.
On waking to the day, with snow on the mind, I thought of the changing of the seasons. This brought to mind that when water moves, ponds, lakes and oceans refresh. When the winds blow they bring warmth, cold, damaging winds, healing rains. When the earth turns, the seasons change. Life is about changing, growing using our past as lessons and opportunities for more beautiful tomorrows.
When we decide that change is dangerous and we get stuck in behaviors and patterns that are unhealthy, like a pond with no moving water, or a river that gets choked off, our spirits begin to die. Our hearts shut down. Our bodies generate hormones and chemicals that continue to generate the same negative thoughts and feelings that again, regenerates the same dark tumbling desire to keep the changes at bay. We become a stagnant oasis.
Stagnation stinks. As fascinating as the bacteria can be that grows and multiplies, which funnily enough changes and re-ignites life into what was once a dying place. The process of regeneration can be painful, stinky and in the end healing. Why then, go through the process of attempting to hold back change?
Why go through the stagnation process?
It only holds off the inevitable…….
Will you share with us one of those moments in life that brought about growth and change in your life?